Every person reaches the point, or should reach the point where they determine who their true friends are. Sadly, these are not the people that say hi in class and smile when you walk by, those are acquaintances; true friends are people who have your back 100% of the time.
Not to classify levels of friendship, but essentially that is what you have to do. Something in your life will trigger the reaction where you sit back and analyze everything that is going on in your life. If you haven’t had this moment yet, you should clear the time and do so. Being able to identify your goals and why you do what you do every day is an important way to keep yourself motivated and on a positive track.
When you notice resistance most people just work to overcome it and move on, however, moving on is a sticky subject. While one can think they move on there are a number of attachments in life that add complications. If you find that there is someone who you call a friend, who makes you feel bad about yourself, or become stressed stop now. This is the worst possible situation that you are about to encounter, being your own person is the key to success and if others are dragging you down you have to “break through the clutter” as David Novak (Yum!) brands would say.
While everyone who knows me is aware that I am an opinionated person, it’s because I strive for success and sometimes can’t help but be honest. However, I was not being honest with myself, I let people push me around and belittle my actions as a person, which if you knew me, you would never believe. I would bend over backwards, drive a million miles, spend every last dime I have to help a friend, 100% of the time. With that being said, if you are someone who puts yourself above our friendship we are bound to clash heads.
For the past 8 years I have been friends on and off with A. I’ve never been someone who has one friend who I share everything with and that is it. I confide in people until they betray me and then if I ever give the chance it takes light years to rebuild the initial trust. When someone calls you selfish, self centered, a prick, ignorant etc. STOP and look at what is being said to you. Now if I went to high school with you and we weren’t friends there is a good chance the other person is correct, however, if this is not the case do not think any further about yourself. You are being attacked by someone who does not have a strong will or goal.
Allowing others to bring you down or attack you is the worst thing that can happen. Each and every person is amazing and has a purpose, allowing someone to boss you around or belittle your actions is NOT ALLOWED. Stop this nonsense right now, you do not deserve this and you have other friends and people out there who will support you and treat you right. Allowing A or anyone else for that matter to hurt you is bullshit, chances are they have no control over their life, they don’t have a goal and choose to be a victim. Don’t be a victim in life, stand up for what you believe in, others will support you, they many not be who you first think, but I promise you people will have your back.
Let these miserable people suffer, people who choose to act or be a victim exert their hatred towards others and cause nothing but harm. I know that this post has gone in a thousand directions but ultimately I mean the following:
1. Do not let others trash talk you, bring you down, etc.
2. You have friends who have your back, let the others go, you do not need them!
3. If you attack others to benefit yourself, then you need to stay the hell away from me because I do not plan on tolerating your crap and neither should anyone else.
Peace out.
-Slobby
